Tuesday, June 30, 2020

When you pick up, you sleep, and when you let go, you wake up. How old is your baby?

Here are some suggestions to help your baby sleep better.

01Teach your baby to distinguish between day and night

Some babies are born to be night owls (you may find that he has frequent fetal movements during the night during pregnancy) and are very awake and active when you want to sleep.

After the baby is born for two weeks, you can start teaching him to distinguish between day and night. Distinguishing between day and night is the first step in the guidance of work and rest, and it is also a prerequisite for parents to sleep well at night.

Play and communicate with him more during the daytime when the baby is awake, keep the room open, and don’t worry about the sound of the phone ringing, dishwasher, music, etc. If the baby is sleeping while feeding, try to wake him up. During the night, when the baby wakes up, don't play with him, don't talk to him more, keep the light dim and the voice soft. Gradually he will understand that night is the time to sleep.

02 Pay attention to capture fatigue signals

If the baby rubs his eyes, pulls his ears, yawns, or becomes irritable, it may be that he is sleepy and needs to be carried to bed.

Taking him to sleep when he is sleepy and not too tired, the effect is the best, with less effort. You will slowly find that you have a "sixth sense" of your baby's daytime rest, and can intuitively tell when he needs to sleep.

When the rice cake was young, I would pay special attention to observing this signal. After breastfeeding and playing for a while, the children will change from a cheerful state to quiet, slightly irritable, rubbing their eyes, yawning, and seeing the time is almost more than an hour. At this time, I picked him up, stopped playing, and walked around in the room to calm him down. When he cried, he took it to the bedroom, put it on the bed, gave the pacifier, patted it, and fell asleep.

Once your baby is older, you can follow a rough schedule, see next article.

03Establish a regular timetable and insist on implementation

Choose a bedtime suitable for your family's work and rest, and adhere to this schedule, both adults and children will benefit from regular work and rest.

Babies don’t have to eat exactly at 12:15, but their daily schedule should be similar. If your baby eats, naps, plays, and goes to bed at about the same time every day, then it will be easier for him to fall asleep.

At the same time, the time for naps can also be planned accordingly, such as nine o'clock in the morning, noon, and three o'clock in the afternoon. Or you can put him on the bed after 2 hours since last waking up.

04Establish routine bedtime procedures

It is never too early for a baby to create and follow a sleep program, which can help the baby settle down and be prepared for sleep. Ritual procedures include but are not limited to: bathing, changing pajamas, bedtime stories, singing lullaby, parent-child reading, kissing, good night to each other, etc.

The key to establishing a sleep program is to do the same thing in the same order every night. Find the things your child likes (such as bathing, reading or singing children's songs) and insist on doing it every day. The baby likes to do one thing continuously, and the expected life will also give the baby a sense of security.

05 Go to bed as early as possible

Your baby will easily wake up during the daytime nap or sleep at night or will not sleep long. Try to let him go to bed early, because too tired will make it difficult to fall asleep.

If the baby usually sleeps after 8:30, but sometimes he just doesn't want to calm down, it may be because he is too tired. Try to get him to bed half an hour earlier, which will make him sleep more steadily.

Many mothers have found that after going to bed early, many sleep problems have been solved. This is the magic of "enough sleep". Before the cake mom wrote an old article on how to deal with "night sleeping baby" (click here to view), it is aimed at the current situation of babies sleeping too late.

06 Encourage your baby to fall asleep

Everyone, whether a baby or an adult, will wake up briefly at night several times, ranging from seconds to minutes. Our adults will immediately fall asleep on their own, but many babies will not. This ability to fall asleep spontaneously is critical in nighttime sleep.

If you want your baby to fall asleep independently / sleep at night, you need to give your baby enough opportunities to practice this skill. You can put your baby in the crib when he is relaxed and drowsy, instead of milking or holding and shaking, otherwise the baby will cry to sleep and coax when you wake up in the middle of the night. If he is crying, he can observe for a few minutes to see if the baby really needs to be hugged and comforted.

The reason is actually very simple. Sleeping in milk, hugging, and rocking will make your child feel like "it should be like this before falling asleep," so I expect the same treatment every time I wake up at night. Doing so often makes the child wake up frequently at night, and the mother cannot sleep at all.

It is not the mainstream in China to let children fall asleep on their own, and there are some difficulties in actual operation (such as the child crying and the old man can't listen, etc.). Mom’s suggestion is to reduce the intervention before going to bed, such as avoiding milk sleep and hugs as much as possible, but mom can be properly accompanied by the side. (Coax the Dafa to poke here)

07 Accept the regression in sleep development

The development of the baby's sleep ability often occurs repeatedly. Babies who have been sleeping well before may suddenly become easy to wake up at night or have difficulty falling asleep, which will make mothers crazy-already tasted the good sleep, and then go back Will be more uncomfortable.

The 4-month-old baby starts to learn to turn over; the 6-12-month-old baby learns to sit and crawl, and even slowly starts walking. Babies continue to learn and develop new skills, and often practice diligently at night to wake themselves up. If he can't fall asleep on his own again, sometimes he makes a "difficult action" and can't go back, so he can only cry for help from his parents.

Separation anxiety may also be an important reason for your baby to wake up at night. When the baby wakes up at night and finds that you are not around, it will be very frustrating. Once you enter the room to calm him, he will be quiet. The rice cake is 1 and a half years old. Sometimes I need my mother's comfort for 1-2 times at night (just touch my mother's hand). I think this is normal and satisfying.

In the face of sleeping backwards, there is no one-size-fits-all solution. What the mother needs is to remain calm and patient. Most problems of growth need to be resolved by "waiting". Every time you go backwards, it also means that your baby's development has crossed another milestone, and mothers can look at this issue more positively.

08 Weaning at the right time

According to the theory of many foreign books, the baby can sleep well after 6 months (and indeed many babies can do it). More conservatively, a 9-month-old baby who is properly fed will not be hungry at night, and he is ready for weaning.

Babies who only fall asleep by feeding milk will wake up at night and want to breastfeed, but this is not because he is hungry, it is more a baby’s psychological need for a “milk” pacifier.

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